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How to Respond Assertively

L- Look at your rights, what you wants, what you need and your feelings about the situation. Let go of blame, the desire to hurt and self-pity. Define your goal and keep it in mind when you negotiate for change.  A- Arrange time and place to discuss your problem that is convenient for you and for the other person. This step may be excluded when dealing with spontaneous situations in which you choose to be assertive, such as a when a person cuts ahead of you  in line.  D- Define the problem situation as specifically as possible.  D- Describe your feelings using "I messages." An "I message" expresses your feelings without evaluating or blaming others. Rather than saying, "you are inconsiderate" or "you have hurt me," the message would be, "I feel hurt." I message connect the feeling statement with specific behavior of the other person.  E- Express your request in one or two easy-to-understand sentences. Be specific and firm.  R- …

Recognizing a Patter- How Do Scholars Do It?

What happened? When did it happen? Where did it happen? Who did it?
Description What does it look like? What are its characteristics? What impression does it make?
Exemplification What are some typical cases or examples of it?
Process How did it happen? What makes it work? How is it made?
Cause and Effect Why did it happen? What caused it? What does it cause? What are its effects?
Comparison and Contrast How is it like other things? How it it different from other things?
Classification and Division  What are its parts and type? How can its parts or types be separated or grouped? Does it fit into logical order? Into what catergories can it be arranged? On what basis can it be catergorzied?
Definition What is it? How does it resemble other memebers of its class? How does it differe from other memeber of its class? What are its limits?

Time Management Tips

1.Count all your time as time to be used and make every attempt to get satisfaction out of every moment.
2.Find something to enjoy in whatever you do. 3.Try to be an optimist and seek out the good in your life. 4.Find ways to build on your successes. 5.Stop regretting your failures and start learning from your mistakes. 6.Remind yourself, "There is always enough time for the important things." If it is important, you should be able to make time to do it.
7.Continually look at ways of freeing up your time. 8.Examine your old habits and search for ways to change or eliminate them. 9.Try to use waiting time -review notes or do practice problems. 10.Keep paper or a calendar with you to jot down the things you have to do or notes to yourself. 11.Examine and revise your lifetime goals on a monthly basis and be sure to include progress towards those goals on a daily basis.
12.Put up reminders in your home or office about your goals. 13.Always keep those long term goals in mind. 14.Plan your day e…

50 Things Everybody Should Learn How To Do

1.Build a Fire– Fire produces heat and light, two basic necessities for living. At some point in your life this knowledge may be vital. 2.Operate a Computer– Fundamental computer knowledge is essential these days. Please, help those in need. 3. Use Google Effectively– Google knows everything. If you’re having trouble finding something with Google, it’s you that needs help. 4. Perform CPR and the Heimlich Maneuver– Someday it may be your wife, husband, son or daughter that needs help. 5. Drive a Manual Transmission Vehicle– There will come a time when you’ll be stuck without this knowledge. 6. Do Basic Cooking– If you can’t cook your own steak and eggs, you probably aren’t going to make it. 7. Tell a Story that Captivates People’s Attention– If you can’t captivate their attention, you should probably just save your breath. 8. Win or Avoid a Fistfight– Either way, you win. 9. Deliver Bad News– Somebody has got to do it. Unfortunately, someday that person will be you. 10. Change a Ti…

Things You Should Learn (How to be Successful)

1. How to Predict Consequences
The most common utterance at the scene of a disaster is, "I never thought..." The fact is, most people are very bad at predicting consquences, and schools never seem to think to teach them how to improve. The prediction of consequences is part science, part mathematics, and part visualization. It is essentially the ability to create a mental model imaging the service of events that would follow, "what would likely happen if...?"
The danger in such situations is focusing on what you want to happen rather than what might happen instead. When preparing to jump across a gap, for example, you may visualize yourself landing on the other side. This is good; it leads to successful jumping. But you need also to visualize not landing on the other side.
What would happen then? Have you even contemplated the likely outcome of a 40 meters fall?
This is where the math and science come in. You need to compare the current situation with your past experie…